Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., & Peter Pearson, Ph.D. 

Lies, Deception, Passive-Aggressive Behavior, Unrelenting  Hostility: Stimulating change with tough couples problems

Many challenging issues stymie couples therapists including deception and lies to a partner and to you; passive aggressive behavior; and unrelenting hostility with no motivation for change. Untangling the web of deception, replacing passive-aggressive behavior with action and motivation, and shifting hostility in early sessions are all necessary for sustained change in entrenched couples.

In this one-day interactive workshop, Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson will use their Developmental Model to demonstrate how to intervene incisively and support the developmental growth of each partner.

You will start the day by seeing a live role play demo of a first session with a hostile/angry couple. You’ll learn to stimulate collaboration without asking why they are seeing you or asking how you can help them. You’ll see how to gracefully shift unmotivated partners into embracing self-change rather than partner rehabilitation.

Your confidence will grow during the day as you learn to integrate attachment theory, differentiation, and neuroscience with your next round of tough clients.

In this fast paced day you will learn how to inspire motivation in unmotivated partners; identify a continuum of lies and skillfully confront deception; build motivation after infidelity; and integrate the intrapsychic impases of passive-aggressive partners and learn to interrupt the over-functioning of their spouses. You will take away innovative and practical approaches as you spend the day with the co-founders of The Couples Institute. You will get the benefit of their experience specializing with couples since 1984­


Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., and Peter Pearson, Ph.D., are the founders of The Couples Institute. They are creators of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and authors of In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy, which is now in its 17th printing. They have been active in ITAA for many years. Ellyn is a past president, served on the Board of Trustees, and chaired the Training and Standards committee. Pete served on the Board of Trustees and edited The Script. Ellyn’s online training program includes instruction on Redecision Therapy and many other practical topics, and it is especially designed for distant therapists. For more information, visit www.CouplesInstituteTraining.com

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